Does the 'Why' Really Matter?

Do you find yourself asking the question 'why?' when things don't turn out the way you think they should?  Perhaps you question why someone has made a certain decision.  Or why they've taken a particular action.  Why they ignored your input.  Why they didn't take certain facts into consideration.  Or perhaps you question yourself.  Why did you do a certain thing?  Why didn't you listen to your intuition?  Why didn't you know better?  All common questions.  Yet, I'd like to challenge you with the thought that the 'why' not only doesn't matter, it leads you onto the wheel of fear...

Why don't people understand what I want?

Clients often come to me either seething with anger or writhing with frustration.  "Why doesn't my partner/child/coworker/boss/friend/neighbor just do what I want?  Don't they realize how much easier things would be for both of us?  Why do I have to fight so hard to get my needs met?  What happened to helping others, or even plain common courtesy? I feel like I'm invisible.  No one makes an effort to understand me!"

How to Say Yes By Saying No

How about if I told you that when you say no, you are really saying yes. Would you believe me?  What are you saying yes to?  Yes to you. Yes to what is important to you.  Yes to what makes you tick.  Yes to what is meaningful.  Yes to your needs, wants and desires.  How can that be?  And how can saying yes to you make saying no easier?  Confused?  Read on...

7 Steps to Get Yourself Out of Your Comfort Zone

Do you want to get out of your comfort zone?  Are you sure?  Because, let's face it, our comfort zone is, well......comfortable.  Safe.  A place within which fear keeps us safe from the unexpected  consequences of stretches, risks and (gulp!) dies.

Ah, but stretches, risks and dies are where the magic happens.  Where we learn our true capabilities.  Where anything is possible.  Where we begin to feel our freedom. Where we fly.  Yet, fear tells us not to take those risks.  "It's scary out there!" fear says, "I can't guarantee your safety.  Stay here with me.  Stick with the known." And yet....we yearn.  To be more.  To do more.  To find our purpose.  To get our needs met. To live our dreams.  And we can, by taking the following steps:

The Power of Procrastination

Some of us procrastinate more than others. For example, I set aside time to write this post much earlier today.  It's now 10 hours past that time, and I'm finally starting.  Many, many articles have been written about why we procrastinate and how to stop procrastinating.  But what if procrastinating is good for us?  What if maybe, just maybe, procrastination is a gift we give to ourselves?  A gateway to a proactive behavior instead of a self-defeating one?

Tips for Communicating with The 4 Types of People

A few months ago, I was introduced to the idea that people fall into four basic types.  Some identify the types as colors, others as numbers, others as shapes.  The theory is that communication becomes much easier when you know your type, as well as the type of the person with whom you wish to interact.  By tailoring your communication style to their type, you'll be better understood, and have a better chance of expressing your needs in a way that the other person will understand and honor.  

Here are the 4 types:

6 Things a Life Coach Can Do For You

Are you feeling stuck in a rut? Wanting to make different choices in the future? Not sure how to do so?

Are you frustrated? Overwhelmed? Feeling like you're not getting your needs met? Unable to set boundaries? Or not getting your boundaries respected?

Or perhaps, your life is going great, and you'd love to have more of the same, or something better?  Are you looking for someone to keep you accountable?

Read on for  6 ways I, as a CFLC Life Coach, can help:

Reader Survey Results: What You Want to Learn

The numbers are in, and I'm so excited! As far as I’m concerned, a reader survey is the best way to get real, useful, concrete data on the people I want to serve best: you.

I want to share the results with you, along with how I plan to use the feedback to meet your needs and exceed your expectations in the coming year.

The 3 S's of Connection: Finding New Friends

Something came up in my Facebook feed this morning that reminded me of the importance of creating connections.  Here's what I read:  "...researchers examined nearly 150 previously published longitudinal studies that measured how the frequency of human interaction affects health outcomes. They concluded that low social interaction can be compared to the damage caused by smoking fifteen cigarettes a day, being an alcoholic, or not exercising..." 

5 Steps to Showing Compassion to Yourself (& Others) in Any Situation

Are you hard on yourself?  Do you have a tendency to blame yourself when things don't turn out the way you'd like them to? Are you comparing yourself with others, and labeling yourself as less than they are?  Is it challenging for you to show yourself compassion? Tough to be gentle with yourself?  Here's a formula that will help. 

How to Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

You've decided on your one thing.  You know you want to change it.  But how?  You need to <gulp> move out of your comfort zone.  Read on to find out how.

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12 Lessons to Move You from Fear to Freedom in 2016

Are you ready to move from fear to freedom?  Do you want support in doing so?  I can help!  Here's a look ahead to what you'll learn on my blog in 2016.   Read on for a list of topics I'll be covering.  

How to Beat Overwhelm by Turning Should into Choice

Do you wake up in the morning thinking about what you should do today?  Do you make your decisions based upon what others think you should do?  Should you be doing something other than reading this article right now?

As a homeschooling mom, I've bombarded myself with shoulds in the past.  I should create a schedule.  I should ensure my child is performing at or above grade level.  I should research the most effective math program.  I should ensure my child is socializing with his peers regularly.  I should be sure he's participating in sports. I should have her participate in a volunteer program.  I should take them to the library on a regular schedule.