Does the 'Why' Really Matter?

Do you find yourself asking the question 'why?' when things don't turn out the way you think they should?  Perhaps you question why someone has made a certain decision.  Or why they've taken a particular action.  Why they ignored your input.  Why they didn't take certain facts into consideration.  Or perhaps you question yourself.  Why did you do a certain thing?  Why didn't you listen to your intuition?  Why didn't you know better?  All common questions.  Yet, I'd like to challenge you with the thought that the 'why' not only doesn't matter, it leads you onto the wheel of fear...

Why don't people understand what I want?

Clients often come to me either seething with anger or writhing with frustration.  "Why doesn't my partner/child/coworker/boss/friend/neighbor just do what I want?  Don't they realize how much easier things would be for both of us?  Why do I have to fight so hard to get my needs met?  What happened to helping others, or even plain common courtesy? I feel like I'm invisible.  No one makes an effort to understand me!"

How to Say Yes By Saying No

How about if I told you that when you say no, you are really saying yes. Would you believe me?  What are you saying yes to?  Yes to you. Yes to what is important to you.  Yes to what makes you tick.  Yes to what is meaningful.  Yes to your needs, wants and desires.  How can that be?  And how can saying yes to you make saying no easier?  Confused?  Read on...

Blog Post 7 Proactive Behaviors to Move you From Fear to Freedom

So you've decided that you want to approach the world from a place of freedom, not fear.  Great!  You've determined your Wheels of Fear and Freedom.  Wow! You've set intentions. Super great!  How do you motivate yourself to act on those intentions from a place of freedom?  Or, perhaps even more importantly, what do you do when Fear starts whispering to you?  When you can feel fear's grip?  When you're in your Fear stuff, and all your freedom based thoughts and actions desert you?  Enter proactive behaviors.

5 Steps to Transform Affirmations into Something Better

Last week, I shared how affirmations don't work for me.  How my initial enthusiasm wains as the promised results don't materialize.  How affirmations can, over time, put me onto my Wheel of Fear and cause me to beat myself up.

This week, I'd like to share an alternative to affirmations.  A few easy steps that are based in Freedom.  That will serve to move me (and you!) forward through empowerment.  Ready?  Here's the formula:

Why Affirmations Don't Work for Some People

Do affirmations work for you?  If so, great!  Keep it up :) 

If not, let's have a look at why.  And let's look at what we can do instead.